If you follow a Chinese billionaire’s saying, after 40, you’re grounded! Well, I’d say this statement depends on which angle you see your (growing) age. For me, life keeps amazing me with her abundant lessons. Some are repeated just to “ground” my boundaries. Others pop up just to humble my innate arrogance. So here are 4+1 takeaways I have learned from (my) life so far.
1- Let your silence work wonders for you
As I keep mentioning in my previous posts, RajaYoga-guided meditation has helped me solve many problems. Nowadays, I check my emails only when I get off my bed. If notifications or messages pop up, I scroll them for details, during my break. More often than not, some issues were settled even without my own efforts! Or they were neutralized for me to fix them with peace of mind.
2- Open up your mind to new possibilities
Experiences may serve as wisdom for you. Yet, don’t let them cloud your judgment when you find new input promising. As the world keeps evolving, especially under these uncertain times, I believe youth’s perspectives can shed better light on my “rusty” path! That is why I’ve kept goals intact, yet remained open to new ways, namely from Sunflower Film Alliance, to reach these… together.
3- Keep your circle as small as possible
For the past decade, I have joined in and belonged to a few social organizations. Although such memberships have allowed me to blend in, a few years ago, I came to realize I had to minimize my exposure. This could only “make up” my exterior. Yet, my “interior” relationship should be maintained to a team as close as MastermindClub. We just celebrated our 12th anniversary and will remain strong together, against all odds. And the smallest circle for me is my family, as I keep rejoicing in their tiny happy growth 😉
4- Help as many people as you can incognito
Whether in business or non-profit works, my approach has been switched a more subtle mode. Over the years, I learned that, the more I focus on my causes and love what I’ve done, partners or clients will be drawn to “our” shared goals. Whether or not they are right, that remains my homework for years to come! At least, the “incognito” or low profile has charmed or even re-awakened those who I should help or service.
- People rarely change, despite your efforts
I don’t mean this post with a negative ending. But bear in mind life is not always as sweet as it looks. If you feel “backstabbed” a couple of times by the same people you care about, you may keep your guard as I warn here. As Oprah once said, you can still love some people, but choose to walk away from them.
After all, this has been my life. As I learned from Netflix series “Lucifer”, if you repeat your mistakes or even sins, your life on Earth could feel like Hell. Yet, you grow from your experiences and detach yourself from those storms, you’ve already built Heaven out of this existence. And I look forward to blow another candle or more to come!